It’s not selfish to want to experience an incredible sexual experience. If you’ve been conditioned to think it is selfish, though, then you may find it difficult to achieve a truly out-of-body orgasm for yourself.
The good news? It’s possible.
How?
Get Comfortable
I mentioned above that it’s crucial to trust your partner. After all, an orgasm is a very personal experience. But beyond trusting your partner, you must also get comfortable with yourself and your environment.
What does this mean? To reach an orgasm, especially an intense one, you must be free from physical and mental stress. You need to be able to push your day-to-day worries out of your mind so you can avoid distraction.
More importantly, you should be comfortable with yourself. This means you need to accept the loss of control that comes with a truly intense orgasm. If you’re a woman, this also means accepting that you may squirt. Only once you have truly relaxed can you prepare for the greatest climax you’ve ever felt.
Take Your Time
The comfort you feel in the environment you’re in, and with the person you’re with, is important. But even in the best circumstances, you may feel rushed or otherwise pressured to climax on a certain time table.
Good things take time, however, and that includes climaxing. A quickie here or there is certainly a great way to spice up your sex life.
In general, though, you should aim to not put a time limit on your sexual encounters. Clear your schedule, take all the time you need to prepare for the evening ahead, and then have it. Your partner will appreciate the slow down, too.
Know (and Use) What You Like
Whether you’re doing this alone or with a partner, you likely have preferences. Perhaps you like a certain sex position. Or maybe you prefer a certain type of vibrator. Whatever your likes may be, you need to know what they are and use them fully and to your advantage.
It’s never a bad idea to go outside of your comfort zone and try new things. But there’s nothing wrong with using your tried-and-true techniques if you’re looking to achieve an out-of-this-world orgasm.
Try Edging
Edging is a masturbatory act (though, it can be practiced during sex with the help of your partner) where you bring yourself to the edge of orgasm, but then withdraw. You will repeat this several times before you finally let go and allow yourself to climax. As you might imagine, edging builds a lot of anticipation and sexual tension.
It can be quite uncomfortable, especially the more times you withdraw from the edge. The release you experience after an edging session, though, can be dizzying and mind boggling.
Take a Break
This is slightly similar to edging in that the ability to withhold will bring you to a much more intense climax. What I mean by taking a break, however, is avoiding orgasm entirely for a period of time.
So, what’s a good length of time? The length of your break will depend on how often you currently come to climax. If you regularly orgasm two or three times per week, then going an entire week without orgasm may be enough.
Or you may find that waiting two weeks will bring you the most fulfillment. You’ll need to find a length of time that works for you (and your partner).
You don’t need to forgo sexual experience to achieve this. (Though, it certainly would be easier.) This is especially important if you have a sexual partner who would feel otherwise put out by your experiment. You should avoid bringing yourself to the “edge,” however.
Summary
As you’ve just learned above, it’s possible to give your partner an orgasm without fully fulfilling their needs. That’s why you need to take a more strategic approach to bringing your partner to climax. This will enable you to give them an orgasm that’s beyond their wildest dreams.
It’s unlikely you’ll be able to try out all of the tips outlined above. But if you implement even just a few of them, you’ll be well on your way to giving her (or him!) the most leg-shaking, out-of-this-world orgasm of her life.